My grandparents have been together over forty years, and are the ultimate couple. They are each other’s complete opposites and they have faced more trials and tribulations in their marriage than most of us could probably fathom. I look at them as an inspiration, but I know that in our generation, they are viewed as the exception. More than fifty percent of all marriages in the United States end in divorce, but these couples don’t just leave behind their naïve, hopeful youth, but more often than not, a child or a family that is torn apart. The question is, should we behave as our elders and stick with an unhappy marriage, praying it will all work out for the better, or should we accept defeat when we feel our marriage has ended and move on with our lives?
I guess you could say that my brother, sister and I are victims of the increasing divorce rate. Our parents were separated for two years before finalizing their divorce only months ago, and while they promised a civilized divorce, they have managed to seriously break their promise. I believe that our economy is partly to blame for the divorce rate: how is a marriage expected to work when the couple is always fighting over incomes, bank statements, the financial risks of realizing and exploring a dream of theirs? Divorce is a big problem that has many people questioning the very foundation of marriage, a life-long love that has been emphasized by classic Disney movies and Hallmark holidays.
Lately, I’ve been wondering if those Polygamist communities and Mormon families have the right idea: is monogamy a wasted cause? Growing old together is a romantic notion, but how often does this happen, not including those couples who are confined by religion or family obligation to stay in their marriage. Who actually want to be with one person, forever and always? I completely believe in marriage and the foundation of a lifestyle together, but sometimes I wonder if there are too many cheaters, beaters and non-believers in the way of every decent person finding their true soul mate.
I guess you could say that my brother, sister and I are victims of the increasing divorce rate. Our parents were separated for two years before finalizing their divorce only months ago, and while they promised a civilized divorce, they have managed to seriously break their promise. I believe that our economy is partly to blame for the divorce rate: how is a marriage expected to work when the couple is always fighting over incomes, bank statements, the financial risks of realizing and exploring a dream of theirs? Divorce is a big problem that has many people questioning the very foundation of marriage, a life-long love that has been emphasized by classic Disney movies and Hallmark holidays.
Lately, I’ve been wondering if those Polygamist communities and Mormon families have the right idea: is monogamy a wasted cause? Growing old together is a romantic notion, but how often does this happen, not including those couples who are confined by religion or family obligation to stay in their marriage. Who actually want to be with one person, forever and always? I completely believe in marriage and the foundation of a lifestyle together, but sometimes I wonder if there are too many cheaters, beaters and non-believers in the way of every decent person finding their true soul mate.
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